Stop Procrastinating and Get Started in just 10 Minutes

Procrastinating is really all about being afraid to begin. Follow these quick exercises to work out why you are scared and how to move through it.

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Procrastination isn’t a sign of laziness, it is a sign of fear. It isn’t about not wanting to do the work, it is about being too overwhelmed to start.

There is a lot of pressure around the start of a project. It feels like a commitment, we are deciding to work on one thing and not another, and so there are doubts around that decision and the stress of taking a decision at all. We also often overestimate the importance of the work done at the beginning, as though it will determine the outcome of the project. That isn’t true. You can do basically anything at the beginning of a project, it should be the most fun part, the part which involves throwing ideas around, the part where you are the least hemmed in. And yet instead it is the part which we fill with the most apprehension. The work you do at the beginning isn’t like the foundations of a house, it doesn't have to be perfect or else the entire edifice will collapse. The work you do at the beginning is the warm-up. It is a training session. It can be totally invisible in the final product.

The important thing at the beginning is not to get off to the perfect start, it is just to take action, any form of action, and chase away the fears that are making you procrastinate.

In just ten minutes, you can conquer those fears.

Spend two minutes identifying what is driving your fear.

There are four main reasons you might be afraid to get started:

  • You have too many ideas and are afraid to commit to one
  • Your mind is suddenly blank and you have no inspiration at all
  • You feel like you’re going to make a mess of things and are putting a lot of pressure on yourself
  • You have no idea where to start

Examine your emotions, write down on a piece of paper the things that worry you about the project you are about to get started on and see which category they fit into the best.

Spend eight minutes doing the corresponding exercise

  • Too many ideas?

This can mean having too many ideas of projects and not being able to get started on any single one, or it can mean having too many ideas about how to tackle your particular project and not being sure which to pick.

Begin by making a list of all the angles or projects that are trotting around your brain. Reread it. See which stand out, which your instinct tells you is right. That is your shortlist.

In the case of choosing a project, ask yourself if any of them are time-sensitive — for instance, an article linked to a certain upcoming event. If so, start with that project. If not, sometimes it is best just to let the universe decide. Draw one idea out of a hat. Schedule the others for the coming days or weeks.

If you are choosing an angle on a piece of work you are already sure of, begin by seeing if any of them can be joined together. Maybe one angle could really just be a paragraph in a piece with a different focus. If not, open a word document, type out all the different ideas. Those will be the things you follow up on, do more research until your instinct tells you which to follow. And if that never happens, pick one angle out of a hat.

The next step: conduct research into each of the ideas left on your shortlist.

  • Lack of inspiration?

Put a timer on for eight minutes, and write down every thought that comes into your mind. Even if they have nothing to do with the project. Just let the words flow. Analyse every element of the topic — what exactly is the brief? What does that mean? This “brain drop” will give your imagination free space to roam. Ideally, you should do this in a place without any distractions, a place where your imagination generally feels stimulated. For me, it works best in a park or anywhere outdoors, but you might prefer home, in a warm bath or in a café.

Next step: do something boring, like washing up or ironing or walking around the block. Don’t take a phone, don’t listen to music. Ideas will continue to pop into your mind.

  • Fear of failure?

This fear can be harder to identify, because it often just makes you feel nervous or blank. The problem is usually a lack of self-confidence, or the fact that you are putting too much pressure on yourself, thinking of this project as the make-or-break event of your career. The problem here isn’t in the work at all, but in your mind.

Take a sheet of paper and answer three questions:

  • What is the worst thing that could happen?
  • How could I bounce back from that?
  • What past projects have made me proud, what have they taught me about my own abilities?

If you are into rituals and hippiedom, like me, you can make a ritual out of this. Light a candle or some incense. Put on some relaxing music and put yourself in an environment which makes you relax. Breath deeply.

Once you have finished, keep this list visible on your desk or working space and reread it whenever you feel scared or lost.

Next step: write a to-do list broken down into small, non-threatening steps (see below).

  • No idea where to start?

Take a sheet of paper and separate it into categories according to the different kinds of activities go into doing a project. For writing, I usually make the categories Contact, Research and Write. In Contact I write the names or professions of anyone I would like to talk to, Research can be books to read or facts and figures to pull up, and in Write I jot down any sections I know I will write, or any ideas concerning the final piece. Do a six-minute brain drop where you write down any task that comes to mind in the corresponding section. Then reread what you have done, highlight priorities and order your tasks into a to-do list. For big tasks, break them down into sections. You should end up with a list of small, clearly defined steps.

Next step: just do number one on the list!

Whatever category you are in, it is important to stick to the ten minutes. Your mind needs to know, going in, that it will just be working for ten minutes, and then it can stop. Then take a break. If you are on a short deadline, make it a short break and then start work again for half an hour to an hour.

I do these short exercises whenever I catch myself procrastinating. I hope they can be useful for you, too, and if you have your own tricks and tips I would love to hear about them in the comments section!

Dolores Claiborne

Ho scoperto che esiste una patologia che si chiama narcisismo perverso. L’ho scoperto dopo mesi di violenze psicologiche: non ricordo neanche come sia accaduto, forse per caso, forse perché stavo cercando spiegazioni a quello che stavo vivendo.
All’inizio era tutto normale. Forse sì, c’erano piccoli segnali anomali, ma niente che non potesse essere giustificato con un: “nessuno è perfetto”. Sembrava una persona buona, persino mite, a tratti remissiva.

Un giorno l’ho visto prendere a calci un cartello stradale. E non mi è piaciuto. Ma si è scusato quasi piangendo, era stata una reazione nervosa.
Poi sono iniziate le critiche a tutto quello che apparteneva al mio mondo. I miei amici, la mia famiglia, la casa in cui vivevo (l’unica che potessi permettermi all’epoca), le mie passioni. Persino i miei vestiti, a volte non andavano bene. Se indossavo le scarpe basse o non mi mettevo in mostra per i suoi amici diventavo “un cesso”.

Una sera litigammo, non so nemmeno perché, e mi si scagliò addosso come una furia. Mi picchiò e mi sputò in faccia, insultandomi. Io ero piegata a terra e non potevo reagire perché non capivo come potesse essersi trasformato così: chi era quella persona dagli occhi vitrei che mi faceva quelle cose? Da lì iniziò il periodo peggiore.

Per un anno ho sopportato di essere picchiata ogni volta che i litigi si inasprivano: una volta, mi ruppi il dito del piede. Un’altra, mi picchiò con una tavoletta di legno. Io dimagrivo, mi disperavo e non potevo reagire: non potevo credere che quella persona fosse lui.
In quel periodo capii che la violenza sulle donne non è cosa da retorica televisiva e che non capita solo nelle situazioni di estremo degrado: anzi, più una persona ha capacità introspettive, più rischia di scivolare nella trappola di un manipolatore.

Il narcisista perverso ti fa credere che sia tu a sbagliare, a costringerlo a comportarsi come un animale perché tu e solo tu hai le colpe di tutto. Se tu non fossi quella che sei, lui non sarebbe disumano. Oppure, e fa ancora più male delle botte, minimizza: “non è successo niente, ti stai inventando tutto, ti ho solo dato uno spintone”.

Ti porta a pensare di essere pazza, ti convince che ti stai inventando le cose, altera la tua realtà: si chiama gaslighting. Ti ritrovi a vivere un mondo che non ti appartiene, non ha senso, eppure pensi di meritartelo, inizi a credere di essere davvero pazza.

Ogni giorno ti svegli con il petto oppresso da una morsa, con l’angoscia di sentire squillare il telefono perché dall’altra parte c’è lui e potresti farlo arrabbiare, con il tuo essere sbagliata, dicendo una frase che non vuole sentire, usando un tono che non gli piace.
E quando si arrabbia riversa su di te le cose peggiori, le parole più affilate, le cattiverie più terribili: salvo poi dirti che tu esageri, che non era nulla, che era solo un momento di nervosismo. E comunque hai sbagliato tu.

Smetti di essere te stessa e vorresti solo dormire per sempre: per evitarlo.
Il narcisista perverso NON GUARISCE: prima di tutto, perché è ancora più difficile per lui riconoscere di avere dei problemi, essendo convinto di essere sempre nel giusto e INCAPACE DI AUTOCRITICA.
Se pensate di essere in una relazione con un narcisista perverso, non sperate di cambiarlo, non sperate che le cose migliorino. Scappate e chiudete TUTTI i contatti. NO CONTACT è l’unico modo per uscirne e ricominciare a vivere.
Io ce l’ho fatta. E sono qui per aiutarvi.

What is your ministry?

You don’t have to wait for the New Year to set intentions. In reality, each day is an opportunity for rebirth, redefining strategies, goal setting, and most importantly for turning inward to connect with our truest, soul desires.

Carrying forth of your mission

For me, the word “ministry” is not necessarily religious even though we often associate it as such. What comes to mind is a bit more expansive — it includes our intentions, how we build our teams, grow our tribes, and continue to offer a bright light to those around us. I think about it in ways in which we grow personally and flourish spiritually.

With the progressing times, I predict that we will see a change in how we approach work.

People are waking up to the fact that just “showing up” to their job is not enough. They‘re seeking true fulfillment that sprouts from an integration of utilizing skills, tapping into our hearts, AND making a difference in the world.

We spend at least a third of our existence devoted to our work realm. How would you feel if you were in faithful service during that time?

It hasn’t been like this for most.

Changing a strong pattern isn’t usually easy, but you can see a movement of mindfulness across almost every platform…which is a beautiful thing.

If you‘re wondering how to increase your connection to yourself and your community here are some powerful questions that can bring forth clarity and purpose:

  1. How do I show up in the world?
  2. Who do I serve on my path?
  3. What fuels my drive?
  4. Where do I spread my message/service?
  5. Why do I continue to do what I do?

Focusing on how we want to feel at the end of the day helps us to make better decisions and stride toward that direction. Remembering and tuning into our unique, soul purpose will be an instrumental guide as we proceed forward.

If fear is something that‘s holding you back from living out your ministry, here’s an audio that can help.

Are You Afraid To Die?

The reason I’m no longer afraid to die

Photo by JR Korpa via Unsplash

At Canada’s Wonderland theme park, I shelled out the extra money for the “fast lane” so that me and my son could walk past the hour-long lineup of people to get on the Leviathan — Canada’s tallest and fastest roller coaster with a steep 80 degree drop.

Just years earlier, I wouldn’t be caught dead riding a roller coaster (pun intended).

Now I’m not disturbed by the thought of dying on the thrill ride.

What changed?

I know where I’m going after I die.

Don’t get me wrong. I have no desire to die. I’m not looking forward to death. And if truth be told I’m even a little anxious about how I may die and whether I will suffer.

I want to live a long life in order to be around for my grandbabies. I adore spending time with my 2-year-old granddaughter and I’m looking forward to the arrival of a second grandchild soon.

I want to live a long and healthy life. Thus the reason I take care of my physical health through exercise and eating healthy and my spiritual health through prayer and Bible study.

But if I tragically die tonight in my sleep, tomorrow in a car accident or next year from cancer, do not be sad that I’m dead. Of course, I know that my death will grieve my family and friends but I want them to also be comforted in the fact that because I’m no longer on earth I’m actually in a better place.

Years ago, I would say, “I hope I’m going to heaven” because I thought I was a nice person. I didn’t murder anyone. I didn’t steal. I didn’t commit horrible acts of assault on anyone.

But now I no longer have to hope. I can confidently say I know I’m going to heaven.

How do I know? How can I be certain?

I accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Saviour.

I believe that God is Who He says He is. I confess to all of you that I believe Jesus came to earth to suffer and die for me. For you. I accept His gift of salvation. I look forward to spending eternity with Him.

It saddens me to think there are people out there — my own friends and family — who fear death. I pray that they too can enjoy the peace that I have in my heart now that I have let Jesus in.

There are no hoops to jump through, no courses to take, no fees to pay. Simply believe.

Jesus said, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. (John 14:6)

Jesus has prepared a place for us in heaven with Him.

My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? (John 14:2)

Jesus shares how easily it is to live with Him forever in eternity.

“I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die. (John 11:25)

I choose to believe. And if today my time has come to leave this earth then know that I am okay. I know where I am going. I look forward to it.

I pray you, too, would know such joy.

Fear: The Battle Within.

I’m still in the process of getting to know myself better, explore new fields and finding that suitable place for me.

One thing I do know about myself however is that i’m a very emotional person. You can easily get at me even when you don’t mean too. By the way this is my first ever post on here, yeah! it took a while for this step.

I’ve always tackled the fear of people spotting an error in my work. Fear of people thinking i’m not smart enough. The funny thing is despite these emotional struggles, I was still keeping up a big smile and no one could tell I was battling with anything.

For a 26 year old, I feel I’m not where I should be and that’s enough to scare the shit outta me. Each time I want to give something a shot, my brain just reflex back to that mistake I’ve made in the paste and how people laughed at me, after which I conclude it’s best not to it anything a try.

One time, I thought people gave me space and don’t talk to me cos they think i’m not smart enough. I know there’re a lot of people out there going through the same phase or even worse.

You may not be as smart as people want you to be but you’re “you”, You just need to be the best version of yourself.

Strive to make things happen, don’t be limited or discouraged by the fear of mistakes you’ve made in the past or what people have to say about you. It’s fine to make those spelling or grammatical errors, it’s Ok to pronounce that word wrong. It’s ok to think you’re stuck in a place for just too long. Every expert was once a beginner, you’ll definitely get past this stage.

Don’t let your emotions be your limitations. Your mental health is in your hands. Take responsibility of your life and give that thought a try, chances are you’ll probably fail again but guess what you can give it a try again and again. Don’t let fear limit you. Be the master of your will.

Fear is a crippling emotion that can wreck you. It doesn’t matter how many times you’ve fallen down, how they’ve looked down on you, look yourself in the mirror and say to yourself, I’m not a failure, I’ll conquer you this limitation called fear. Get a grip of yourself, try new things. It’s ok to make silly mistakes or even pronounce that word wrong in the presence of the person you intended to impress. you’ll get past this stage.

Fill your mind with positive thoughts at all time, convince yourself by saying positive things out loud to yourself. Read, learn and make cautious effort at improving yourself. Don’t be against yourself by letting your mind be your limitation. Take charge of your emotion and put them under control. You deserve the best only if you believe.

Your fears can surface into several emotional problems like depression, low self esteem and could ultimately lead to you contemplating suicide, if you’re not careful. it’s a dark dark road, trust me.

I had a total change when I was able to identify firstly, that fear was my problem, things became even more better when I realized that I was always scared of giving new thoughts or ideas a try cause I feared I would me mocked or viewed as “not smart.”

Problem identification is the first step towards getting a hold of yourself only this time you just have to be specific and tackle your challenges from the root.
Identify that specific thing that’s truly stopping you from making that move.

Be cautious of your thoughts pattern, people or events that scares you. whenever you get scared of making same mistakes you made years ago, look yourself in the mirror and say positive things to your self. You need to feed your mind with all the positivity you can. When ever you have a trigger of fear, flip it over, think of the best thing that could happen. Say affirmative words to yourself till you’re able to convince yourself.

Taking deliberate steps and making efforts toward improving yourself. What’s that thing you fail at which has made you a scared person over time. Don’t accept defeat just like that. If you fear public speaking, start by talking in a group of 5, increase the number. It’s true when they say practice make perfect.

When you take action and face your fears, they become weaker, because you realize that reality isn’t nearly as bad as your imagination.

Your life is what you make of it.

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The Scary Things We Do to Save Money

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It seemed simple enough.

I’d hop on the bus and be home in a flash.

So what if it was 3 a.m. and I was a little sleepy? I’d been out dancing. Uber was surging. Why should I spend $14 if I could ride the bus for just two bucks?

This mindset was why I had made so much progress on my debt: in a few days, I would pay off my credit card. The main reason I reached this goal was because I had made tiny but significant, everyday decisions that involved spending less money: cooking dinner rather than grabbing something on the way home. Passing up on the opportunity to buy a new dress even though it was on sale.

Taking advantage of public transit rather than overpriced rides seemed to fall into this category, right?

I had already walked a little ways down a street that was becoming more and more deserted with every step, and was getting worried about making it safely the rest of the way. Surely the bus, which I took all the time during normal daytime hours, would be safer.

It wasn’t.

After boarding, I only had about 10 minutes to my stop, but it was just enough time for three twenty-somethings to join my ride. They looked a little on edge, not drunk but maybe hopped up on something stronger. They looked right at me, and I made a point of avoiding eye contact after that. Eager to get home and also on an unfamiliar route I never took, I stood up a little early before reaching my stop to make sure I didn’t miss it. It was just enough time for them to notice me exiting the bus by myself.

Once I got off, I walked quickly, relieved to see other late-night revelers walking down the main strip of clubs that runs parallel to my block, but also anxious, knowing how crazy people get at that hour. I only had a few short minutes until I reached my apartment but had to walk down a side street to get there. I heard loud laughter and shouting, and glanced back to see the three kids from my ride earlier. They had gotten off when I did, and were also turning up that side street.

Normally, I give people the benefit of the doubt and assume they’re minding their own business. But then they started yelling obscenities at me, telling me they were going to catch up with me. I got scared and burst into a run. I could hear their footsteps and voices getting closer to me and felt panic. Finally I was just a short way across the street from my building. As I turned the corner, I saw one of them cutting up an alley, trying to intercept my path before I could make it back in time. “Where you going!” he shouted. I bolted up the steps, jammed my key into the door, opened it and pulled it quickly behind me, gasping. During the ride up to my floor in the elevator, all I could hear was my heavy breathing, my heart pounding.

Yes, I’m mad at myself for making such a stupid decision, a decision that might have led to something bad happening. It’s possible those three kids were just messing with me and had no intention of actually hurting me, but regardless, I shouldn’t have even put myself in that situation.

Saving money can be a scary thing, if you’re dumb about it.

You get into those gray areas where you take risks and make yourself more vulnerable than you need to.

The gray areas might include delaying a much-needed, long overdue doctor’s appointment to get something checked out because you’re worried about accruing medical expenses. Or staying in an abusive relationship because the guy makes it easier for you to live in an expensive city. And these are just some of the ways we put dealing with debt before our own personal well-being. As most of us know, it gets much, much worse for a lot of people, in terms of what they’re willing to do to make more money, and how it puts them in danger.

The bottom line is, we always need to look out for and take good care of ourselves in our private lives and in our relationships, not just with money, but with everything. We are our greatest asset. Every day-to-day decision plays into that.

Me, I need to reign it in a little, with my life-affirming city adventures and my need to live within my means. It’s a tough balance sometimes. I hadn’t gone dancing in forever and don’t regret it because it made me feel alive and helped me relieve some stress. I do regret not recognizing the fact that I should take better care of myself and just spend a little extra on an Uber. I may be older, wiser and fairly independent, but I’m not invincible, especially when it comes to late-night D.C.

Perhaps my failure to make the best choice that night stems from the fact that I’ve dramatically changed so much of my life, and it entailed taking a lot of risks. Like leaving a bad marriage, going after the job I wanted, taking a chance on an apartment that has brought me joy. I want to believe I’m a calculated risktaker with everything. But I’m not.

Sometimes it’s more than knowing you’re fearless or smart. Sometimes it’s stepping outside of yourself and looking at your life objectively.

Lately, I’m doing this thing where I try to give myself the same advice I’d give one of my friends when I’m alone and feeling uncertain about what I’m doing. It usually works. Like if I’m tired, I tell myself to just go home already if I’m not feeling it. Or if something bad happens, I reassure myself I’ll get through it, rationalize the ways I’ll fix the problem. I never would have let one of my friends get on the bus that night; I would have told them to call an Uber and get home safely.

I know I give good advice. I just need to take my own every once in a while! I need to remember the value of my life, when everything comes down to those snap decisions. I’m my greatest asset.

#Aadhaar Activists’ Notebook: Be Afraid. Be Very Afraid.

In my years as a marketing professional if there is one thing that I can bet on, it is this. Fear is a stronger driver than greed.

Tell a prospective client, you can get 50% more revenues if you use our product, you will have a tough time.

But tell him, you are going to bloody lose XX dollars this year. But don’t worry, we can save you, and I can bet you will have his ears, hands, legs and every beat of his heart.

Why?

Fear, my friend. Fear works.

After I got interested in politics, I realised how well political leaders used this fear to their advantage. Bush pushed through security measures in US, by appealing people’s fears. Hitler and Goebbles did that to consolidate their power in Germany.

As activists we have to use the same fear to get things done.

In civil life lawyers understand this very well. I see that in my professional life as a software product marketeer. Every contract we sit down to draw, we have lawyers on both sides getting a good portion of our revenues feeding our fears.

Lawyers get it.

That’s why I was not surprised when my fellow activist Praveen Dalal uses it to full measure.

We all have to learn from him.

Our aim should be instill fear in the population about Aadhaar, and then most of our job will be done.

Here are the examples.

(This is a part of a series)

Burn It All Down.

Photo by Dark Rider on Unsplash

It’s really all a game

the terror and fear,

inner and outer wars

of words,

battles of extremes

good and evil

love and hate.

We’re all small boys playing with

our big insecurities,

crushed by castrating by fathers,

enabling mothers,

styled by barbaric barbers,

a constrution to hide

wounded tsunamis

and raging volcano’s

teetering, ready to blow.

So cute

a terrible two’s tantrum

with tiny fingers

twitching,

desperate to prove

who’s faster on the draw,

not just premature.

It’s up to us,

stay clear of the soap drama,

sheild our ears

from rambling armchair critics

with loud soap box rhetoric.

Turn from the men in suits

with greedy fingers in elite sticky pies

telling us what to think,

feel

and buy,

when and how to die.

Consider carefully the guru’s words

before we make it our own truth

take it all,

ruminate with a pinch of Himalayan salt.

Instead be quiet, still

catch the shy truth,

whispers

as they slip between

the jailers bars

past our self-constructed

ego cage of consumerist security

to escape from

our ‘enlightened’ cultural design.

Only our passion

is greater than our fear,

fears,

fear of fear.

Rising majestically above the dross

to something greater

than ourselves,

a journey to nowhere

except back to the truth.

Stand in this consuming moment,

let it swallow us whole,

until we catch alight

with white hot intensity

desire,

love,

luminescence.

Fill our minds with infinite dreams

stories of hope and magic

our hearts with

passion

burst into flames

burn it all down,

burn,

be consumed

by the love of something so much greater.

Where are our insignificant childish fears now?

Fuel for the all consuming fire.

Are you afraid of success? I am

There is freedom waiting for you on the breezes of the sky and you ask “What if I fall?” Oh but my darling, What if you fly? (Erin Hanson)

Flying scares me more than falling. Because it means going outside my comfort zone, in a place that I haven’t visited in a while.

Getting from journalism to ghostwriting was frustrating. It took me a while to get used to not taking any credit for my work. To send every article to a stranger and let him/her decide what to cut and when to publish.

Then, without even noticing, I’ve fallen into a different state of mind.

Working as a ghostwriter has become more comfortable with every new article. I write, someone else edits and publishes. Most of the times I don’t even know what happens with my materials. Where they end up or how much engagement they get.

I continue telling myself everything is going to be okay. And I use comfortable reasons to keep myself satisfied with writing only for others.

  • I’m not ready for negative feedback. What will I do with comments where people disagree with my ideas?
  • I won’t be able to publish as often as I should, anyway.
  • I don’t want attention.
  • I won’t make it, with all that great content published online every day.

Do you have similar ideas running into your mind?

Not knowing what to do, I googled. I always do it when I start writing for my clients.
I run into fascinating articles about fear.

Fear of success is real.

I write notes on my phone, ideas for articles that never leave Evernote. “Someday”, I tell myself. As you can imagine, that day hasn’t arrived yet.

Two years ago, I published some articles on my blog. People received them better than I had expected. It was a surprise. But, I didn’t find the motivation to keep writing. (I continued with some blog posts, but I guess I wasn’t ready to come back.)

Fear of success happens for many reasons:

  • Friends. We can’t know how others will react to our success. What if they reject us?
  • Failure. Failing when successful is harder because we have high expectations.
  • Risk. Success brings uncomfortable changes in our lives.
  • Progress. We don’t feel ready to handle the challenge of getting better at what we do.

Fear of success doesn’t kill you. But it leads to mediocrity. You don’t want that. I know I don’t.

Luckily, many articles include suggestions on how to step out of this loop.

  1. Accept the problem. If you can’t see the fear behind comfortable lies, you can’t start fighting it.
  2. Identify what scares you the most. I mentioned some reasons above. But, we’re different, and so are our ideas of remaining in the shadow. Write down what holds you back.
    Changing my working habits scares me, for example. I’m afraid I won’t handle the pressure like I used to. I’m so scared of negative feedback. Trolls scare me.
  3. Stay positive. Negative thoughts keep you from acting. Release your mind from negativity, and you’ll manage to start working on an actual strategy.
  4. Control your imagination. Fear makes you your worst enemy. Stop imagining how all the bad things in this world will happen once you start growing.
    I’m still working on this part.
  5. Find your voice. Authenticity is a quality of successful people. What makes you special? Work to find your values and your goals.
  6. Set milestones. Success is a comprehensive concept. You can’t start building a house without a project. And you can’t create success without a strategy. Milestones are important. They allow you to focus on each step, as you grow.
    My first milestone is this blog post.Or at least I like to see it that way.
  7. Measure results. They keep you motivated. Small victories — personal and professional — take you closer to being a successful person.
  8. Keep learning. Things you don’t know scare you. Every time you have a question, don’t stop until you find the answer. It’s never too late to learn something new.

It’s two days since I’m trying to put together ideas for this text. Write, delete, write again. Delete.

And I wonder if others struggle between ideas. If they write notes and bullet lists only to delete them. If they make plans and let them dust.

I try to stay positive. But, as I said before, I’m still working on keeping my imagination under control. So, please, be gentle. At least today. It will help me write again tomorrow. And fly.

5 things about fear of missing out (FOMO)

  1. FOMO is not recipe to success
  2. FOMO leads in taking quick decision
  3. FOMO never makes us complete
  4. FOMO adds stress